Men mamma!

Publicerad den av
Svara

Kom hem från USA i fredags och när sonen i söndags förstod att jag skulle till Tyskland måndag-tisdag på en jobbresa utbrast han:
Men mamma, ska du aldrig stanna hemma?

Jo…. Hade tänkt det. Men måste komma hem först bara. ‘Ska bara’ är jag bra på, precis som Alfons. Ska bara komma hem först…

Å andra sidan var det en riktigt bra jobbresa, igår besök hos en maskintillverkare och idag är vi på språng till en annan.

IMG_3779.JPG

Och hotellet hade en liten pool så igår unnade jag mig själv ett dopp efter en stund i både ång- och torrbastu.

Som tur är har barnen studiedag imorgon och jag har medvetet hållit mitt schema helt tomt så imorgon blir en mor/barn-dag. Längtar!

12 years a slave

Publicerad den av
Svara

Flying to the US for my last and final weekend on the 2014 Supercoach Academy, I watched 12 years a slave on the in-flight-entertainment system. 12 years a slave And I was horrified. It’s a magnificent production, excellent acting, and absolutely horrible to watch. And I actually had never even thought about the possibility of free African-American men, women and children being kidnapped and sold into slavery. But it happened, and the movie is based on the book written by Solomon Northup himself, after managing to get out of slavery. Apparently one of very few kidnapped to manage to escape.

There is one thing I believe slavery builds more than anything else, and that is more fear. I can only imagine what those who are enslaved fear, but I can hazard a guess: Fear of their owners, fear of being sold, abused, mistreated, separated from loved ones, worked to death, etc. And the very concept that slavery exist must put fear in those who aren’t enslaved as well, especially those in close proximity of slavery, somehow. Fear of falling into slavery oneself, must be there. It just must. Unconciously or conciously.

One of the most absurd things – for me – about the entire concept of slavery is the notion that human beings can be owned by someone. Isn’t it absolutely absurd? I wonder how and why this notion ever got rooted in the culture of humanity, especially since it’s such an old tradition. It’s been around for thousands of years. But why?

I don’t know. I ramble. But I do know this: ownership is definitely something worth looking into. Asking myself some questions around ownership, I’ll reflect more on it. Because what can I own, really?

Thoughts aren’t Truth!

Publicerad den av
1

Found a great quote by Byron Katie on Facebook:
Byron KatieAnd I have to say, that’s one very wise woman. Because thoughts are just that, thoughts, and not Truth, which I have been prone to believe before. But they are not instructions that you have to follow, they just are. Period.

Sometimes I act on my thoughts, and sometimes I don’t, based on what serves me best in the moment. But overall, just to know, in my heart, that I do not have to believe, and act, upon the thoughts that come into my head was been the greatest revelation in my life.

And you know what, that might seem like I’ve been totally dense until I got this, and I might well have been, but while I’ve always know I don’t have to believe, and act, upon obviously ”crazy thoughts” such as ”Try jumping off the cliff to see if you can fly” or perhaps ”I wonder what it would be like to kiss that smashingly magnificent-looking perfect stranger across the road”, I really didn’t know I didn’t have to believe, and act, upon the more unassuming – but oh so insidious! – thoughts such as ”Well, so everyone says you’ve done a good job today, but really, you could really have done a bit more! I’m dissapointed in you! You’d better get your act together.” or something like ”You didn’t remember to remind your child about bringing gym clothes to school today, so you’re obviously a bad mother and really need to shape up this parenting stuff, or else…”.

But I don’t have to take either as truth. Because they are not. They just are. What relationship do you have with thoughts?

Physically home

Publicerad den av
Svara

After 10 days on the road, visiting Santa Monica for Graduation weekend of Supercoach Academy, and then taking a few extra days of leisure in Seattle, meeting up with an old friend from my years as a foreign-exchange student in Lincoln, Nebraska, I am finally physically home. And it feels great.

Nowadays, I am, from a psychological point of view, (almost) always home within myself these days. But it sure does feel good to be physically home within the confines of my house and the loving arms of my familly.

Insights

Summer weather greeted me on return, and I enjoyed a sunny afternoon with the shared Insights from all my classmates of Supercoach Academy. The wisdom and sense of wonder contained within the stories, moves me to tears and laughter. I am filled with love for all of my fellow Supercoaches, but luckily enough, there’s enough to go around, so regardless if you’ve shared this ride with me the past nine months or not, consider yourself loved.

I am truly blessed!

I’m not alone

Publicerad den av
2

Supercoach Academy 2014 has ended, and it’s been an amazing journey. During this time so much has shifted for me and one of the more significant shifts took place during the New York-Connection-weekend. The big shift came when a fellow attendee shared a feeling of being ”the only one who feels excluded, and not in connection with the others”.

I was floored.

Not because I have ever believed that this is a feeling unique to me.

And not because I’ve never stared this thought in the eyes before, so to speak. I have.

I even did a drawing over and over again as a child, when I had just started school, of blobs of different colors, all close to each other…. and one black blob, to the side, separate from the others, not connected, not included. Clearly different. Alone. Separated. Over and over I drew the same image. As a child of 7 or maybe 8. Already then I strongly identified with this story I kept telling myself, that I was not connected, that I was alone.

20140806-105648-39408772.jpg

But that story and all the attachment I have had to it for decades all just seemed to fall into small pieces during the Connection weekend, it all crumbled and fell apart.

And this is what I now know:
I am not alone. I am connected. Connection is not something I have to create. It’s already there. IT’S ALREADY THERE!!! Imagine that huh?!

What am I afraid of and who’s to blame?

Publicerad den av
Svara

What am I afraid of and who’s to blame? We center our lives around this question – according to Brene Brown – to the detriment of us all. Just started to listen to the RSA Talk that Brene Brown gave a while ago, and even though I’ve listened to it at least five times, I’ve never latched onto this question.

But today. Wham!! It hit me like a hammer on a nail that this is what is happening in Sweden today. And yesterday. And on election day. And the months leading up to Election Day… and so on. We have all fallen prey to the question of what I’m afraid of and who’s fault it is.

There are those that voted for the Swedish Democrats. This very question somehow seems to be at the very center of what that party is all about. A fear of/for a country (and a world) that is changing by the second, and being afraid of that change. Not wanting it. Not feeling safe with that change. Or whatever the rationale is… And the blame is put on immigrants.

Then there are those who didn’t vote for the Swedish Democrats. The people terrified or pissed off or personally offended by the racist dogma that somehow seems to have been the main focus during this general election in Sweden. And here the blame is placed on the people who sympathise with the Swedish Democrats.

And you know what?

It won’t work. Neither way.

We can’t create a good society if we base it on fear and blame. So regardless if you voted on the Swedish Democrats or you voted for something else, if you based that vote on fear (and blame), you will not get what it is you desire. You will not get a release of that fear. On the contrary, because of what you focus on, you will get more of that. So if you base your life on fear, fear you will have.

And I don’t wish living a life based on fear on my worst enemy. And I speak from a point of having done just that. So much of my life has been centered on fear. Knowingly sometimes, unknowingly the other times. But always this fear lurching beneath the surface. Menacing. Even making me fear fear.

But it’s not where I come from now. Today I am centered in love, and I know fear is a mind construct that I do not have to believe!

What would it take for you to start to look at your fears? Would it help if I told you fear is a figment of our imagination? It is not a Truth. It only lives in your mind.

IMG_3721.JPG

Do you know what you are afraid of? Do you know why you voted on what you voted for this general election? Can you honestly tell me fear didn’t have anything to do with your choice?

Oysters!

Publicerad den av
Svara

On my very first visit ever to Seattle I also got to taste oysters for the very first time in my life. My friends took me to the Westward, a fairly new restaurant situated beautifully on the waterfront overlooking downtown Seattle and the Space Needle. Wonderful weather, amazing company – including a friend from my year as a foreign exchange student in Lincoln, Nebraska, in 89/90, so time sure has flown! – and the opportunity to try oysters for the first time ever.

Of course I accepted the challenge, and am I ever glad I did! We ordered one each of two kinds, the Wild Cats and the Kumomoto (the smaller black-shelled one), and I was taught the ropes. Spooned a wee bit of vinegar/finely chopped shallots-mixture on top, and down the hatch it went!

Oysters

And you know what? I loved it! Imagine that huh, here I’ve gone 42 years without ever trying, and it turns out I love it. I’ve just never really seen the point to oysters, not really thinking it could be any good. The take-away is definitely not to take my thinking to be the Truth, because you just never know until you try!

You’ve probably got a similar story or two in your life, where you believed something and was proven wrong once you tried it?

Supercoach!

Publicerad den av
1

I’m now officially a certified transformative coach, a graduate of the Supercoach Academy 2014, and I have to tell you – it’s a great feeling!

IMG_3567.JPG

It has been a nine month journey unlike any I’ve ever experienced, and I am grateful for getting on the ride!

IMG_3613.JPG

Went for a quick dip in the ocean before continuing my travels, and was playing around a bit in the sand. And as you can see, from now on I’m not only HERO the coach, I am HERO the supercoach. And that feels great.

Now I’m gonna rest in the feeling and knowledge of having accomplished this for a while longer, and then – who knows! I’m certainly curious to find out what will be around the corner. Are you?

Rebirthed from and to love – graduation day of SCA2014

Publicerad den av
4

So, it’s time. The nine months of Supercoach Academy are up, and I just woke up to the last and final day of this last weekend, entitled Integration & Expansion. It’s been a journey that has me in awe of the gifts of human beings, because my classmates here – and there’s like 70 plus of us – are just amazing.

Some of them I have barely talked to, this being such a large group, but I love them anyway. Some of them I’ve shared a talk or a break out session with, and I’ve gotten to know a little something of them. Then there’s the rest, that have actually touched my heart, and will forever be held close to it.

But you know what, I love them all, regardless of how close to my heart they have come (I have let them?). In fact, this whole weekend has me feeling like I am being reborn, and this time honey, my heart and my love for all that is is coming out first. This love for all is the outermost part of me, it’s my new skin, it’s the cornea of my eyes. Hence, it’s the filter that will tint the way I perceive the world, putting the rose-tinted sheen of love on my experience of the world, which is how I’m creating my reality.

I love U

Strange. Out there. Nutty.
I know. I could easily label this feeling with words to that effect, and my experience of the world through the filter of love as being insane, as if I’m seriously loosing it, somehow. I could feel that way, if I try to make sense of it, and put a label on it.

But then again, why should I? I don’t have to make sense of this, I can just do what I am doing, and that is to go with it. Going with the sensation of looking at each and everyone of my classmates and just feeling the love of the universe flowing through me, out into the world.

And you know what? This would not be possible if I hadn’t first remembered what it’s like to love myself, something that has gradually awakened within me this past year or two. That process started before Supercoach Academy, but it sure got a kick into overdrive from this experience. I could not extend my love for all, if – at the center of this – I didn’t have my love for me.

I am curious about today, really looking forward to it, but even more so, I’m dying to go home to my family to look at them through my new cornea. I have no idea what difference it will make, I just know it will. I feel it already, and it’s like I’ve gotten a taste of something I know I’m gonna love to have more of.

That said, it’s time to make myself ready for today, and it has the feel of getting ready for my spiritual rebirth! I’m wowed. This is an amazing place to be, and I’m ever so grateful for getting to this state of mind on this particular day. I’m also really curious to know if anyone else has ever had a similar experience. Have you?

Utmaningens upplopp!

Publicerad den av
2

Uppdatering 15 sept 2014: Alla 100 platser fylldes med ett halvt dygn till godo! Om du önskat att du också fått en plats så får du höra av dig så löser vi det med!

—————-

Med endast två återstående dagar av de trettio dagarna då jag utmanat mig själv att boka in 100 (gratis 2 timmars-) coaching-konversationer så skickar jag här ut en vädjan till dig om att hjälpa att fylla den sista knappa femtedelen av platserna.

Mer information kan du få här:

Passa på och ta chansen nu! Med 100 samtal att hålla är min kalender fylld resten av året, så de som inte får en av de 100 platserna kommer inte få en ny chans till ett samtal förrän 2015.

Vad har du att förlora?