4/24 – The urge to hide

I don’t even remember the question that led up to this:dolphin

”Oh no, not me, what should I say? What should I do? Do I look good? Is my hair ok? Who will see this, and what will they think of me?”

All those can be read into that ”Eh…” in the note I took.

In other words – human beings have a tendency to worry about what others might think, rather than just be in the moment, and go with what wants to happen.

Why is that? Where does it come from? And when does it come? Because surely we are not born with a detrimental and depressingly downputting self-deprecating inner dialogue?  One that we actually don’t have to listen to even, and still, it’s as if we think it’s telling the Truth. Why is that?

Reflection #4 of 24 from the notes I took and the experience I had at the Seth Godin Q&A-session in London, November 2015. These reflections will constitute my Advent Calendar for 2015, and will be posted daily from December 1st to the 24th.

Thoughts aren’t Truth!

Found a great quote by Byron Katie on Facebook:
Byron KatieAnd I have to say, that’s one very wise woman. Because thoughts are just that, thoughts, and not Truth, which I have been prone to believe before. But they are not instructions that you have to follow, they just are. Period.

Sometimes I act on my thoughts, and sometimes I don’t, based on what serves me best in the moment. But overall, just to know, in my heart, that I do not have to believe, and act, upon the thoughts that come into my head was been the greatest revelation in my life.

And you know what, that might seem like I’ve been totally dense until I got this, and I might well have been, but while I’ve always know I don’t have to believe, and act, upon obviously ”crazy thoughts” such as ”Try jumping off the cliff to see if you can fly” or perhaps ”I wonder what it would be like to kiss that smashingly magnificent-looking perfect stranger across the road”, I really didn’t know I didn’t have to believe, and act, upon the more unassuming – but oh so insidious! – thoughts such as ”Well, so everyone says you’ve done a good job today, but really, you could really have done a bit more! I’m dissapointed in you! You’d better get your act together.” or something like ”You didn’t remember to remind your child about bringing gym clothes to school today, so you’re obviously a bad mother and really need to shape up this parenting stuff, or else…”.

But I don’t have to take either as truth. Because they are not. They just are. What relationship do you have with thoughts?

On war

Via Troed Troedson I found this interview with Hermann Göring:
Interview with Gustave Gilbert in Göring’s jail cell during the Nuremberg War Crimes Trials (18 April 1946).

Göring: Why, of course, the people don’t want war. Why would some poor slob on a farm want to risk his life in a war when the best that he can get out of it is to come back to his farm in one piece? Naturally, the common people don’t want war; neither in Russia nor in England nor in America, nor for that matter in Germany.

That is understood. But, after all, it is the leaders of the country who determine the policy and it is always a simple matter to drag the people along, whether it is a democracy or a fascist dictatorship or a Parliament or a Communist dictatorship.

Gilbert: There is one difference. In a democracy, the people have some say in the matter through their elected representatives, and in the United States only Congress can declare wars.

Göring: Oh, that is all well and good, but, voice or no voice, the people can always be brought to the bidding of the leaders. That is easy. All you have to do is tell them they are being attacked and denounce the pacifists for lack of patriotism and exposing the country to danger. It works the same way in any country.

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Isn’t it scary how much truth there is to this quote, even today? It really makes me realize the importance of the leaders we chose to vote for/believe in/trust with governing our countries.

How can we – the people, the masses – be so easily swayed from love and acceptance towards hatred and violence? Why is it so hard to stay in the place of love, the space where we are one, and not divided into warring factions?

Why?