Podcast 17/52 – lethal absence of hope

Here’s an episode of On Being with Krista Tippitt that I listened to first time around a couple of years ago. I recently listened to it again, and it affected me as much second time around. It’s with a Jesuit priest named Greg Boyle, famous for his work with gangs and gang members in and around Los Angeles. Perhaps you’ve heard about Homeboy Industries?

In the podcast, Greg Boyle describe what gangs are all about in this way:

It’s about a lethal absence of hope. It’s about kids who can’t imagine a future for themselves. It’s about kids who aren’t seeking anything when they join a gang. It’s about the fact that they’re always fleeing something, always, without exception. So it shifts the way you see things. Somebody, Bertrand Russell or somebody, said, ”If you want to change the world, change the metaphor.” And that’s kind of how we want to — I think we need to proceed in something like this. So if you think it’s the Middle East, you’re quite mistaken. If you think it’s Northern Ireland, wrong again. It’s about kids who’ve ceased to care. So you want to infuse young people with hope when it seems that hope is foreign.

BoldomaticPost_It-s-about-a-lethal-absence-oA lethal absence of hope.

Oh, that’s powerful.
That hit me right in the gut.

And there’s so much more in this podcast, so please, take a listen. (And you can actually read it as well, but I do urge you to listen. There’s a feeling behind the words that is very apparent when listening to Father Greg speak about his homies.)

If what we are facing is a lethal absence of hope, and I don’t doubt it for a minute – what can I do? What can we do? What is there to do? And I don’t mean specifically about the gangs of Los Angeles. I mean about the lethal absence of hope that is visible everywhere. I don’t think there’s a country on earth, not facing just that somewhere or other within the confines of its borders. Do you?

So how to approach a lethal absence of hope?


Podcast 9/52 – Love and Sex and Attachment

Today marks the start of the blog challenge #Blogg100 in Sweden, and just as the last two years, I’ve decided to play. However, I have no real plan for doing anything other than what I normally do, which is blog daily…. but, who knows, I might think of something special as I go along.

However, today is Sunday, and it’s time for my ninth podcast tip, and I’m opting for an episode from On Being with anthropologist Helen Fisher, called Love and sex and attachment. I listened to the episode earlier this week, and just like a few other podcasts, immediately re-listened once finished. Today as I found the link for the episode I see Helen Fishers photo, and was a bit surprised. Her voice doesn’t sound like she looks. Have you ever experienced that? Anyway, that’s a side note.

Love, sex, attachment. I mean – you can’t really go wrong there, can you? It’s something we are all interested in and affected by. And that’s actually the reason why Helen got into this area of scientific enquiry in the first place, because she was so interested in that which ties us together, that which we all have a relationship to, the similarities between people, rather than that which separates us.

BoldomaticPost_relationships-evolve-and-a-goOne of the take away’s for me from this podcast is the ever-changing nature of relationships, and that it’s actually a sign of a good relationship, that it is constantly changing, growing, evolving. And you know why? Because life in itself is constantly changing – nothing is permanent. We have somehow gotten tricked into believing it is, or should be, but in reality, life is dependent on change, changing thoughts, changing needs, changing mental states, changing relationships. So how could we ever believe that any one person, or any one relationship, could be permanent? Is it a need for safety and security that have warped somehow? Perhaps due to the loss of the local community, that Krista Tippitt and Helen Fisher also touch on in the show?


Listen for the unknown #4

Why not stay where we left of with #3 yesterday with On being? Here’s another podcast from the same show, or actually, it’s old enough to be from Speaking of faith, which is what On being was called before. It’s been a few years since I first heard this specific podcast, and it’s remained with me since then. I just relistened to it and it’s as rich and rewarding today, as it was first time I listened to it. I remembered it to be called Being autistic, being human, but it turns out the episode is called Autism and humanity.

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What do you hear that you’ve never heard before?

Listen for the unknown #3

Curious if you, like me, heard anything that stopped you dead in your tracks when you listened to the podcast from The One You Feed in #2?

Today, on to another of my absolute favorite podcasts, that I just realised I haven’t listened to all year. Most definitely want to change that for 2015, because On Being with Krista Tippitt holds loads of unknowns for me. Here’s lots to listen for, that I’ve never heard before, and Kristas style of being in conversation during her interviews is right up my alley.

Here’s an episode called Inner life at work, with guest Tami Simon.


What do you hear that you’ve never heard before?

Part 4, Seth at On Being

Seth Godin on On Being with Krista Tippit, part 4. I have gotten a whole lot more from this podcast, but these four blog posts are what made it into visible form.

They end their talk with talking about how we encourage or discourage children to contribute to society. Seth ponders:

Kids’ role as a contributor to society starts now when they are ten, not when they are twenty four, and that the trail they leave behind starts the minute someone snaps their picture.

If we can teach children that there isn’t this bright line between off duty and on duty, but that life is life, and you ought to live it like people are looking at you, cuz they are. Then we trust them, and we trust them to be bigger than they could be, because they chose to be bigger.

And it’s that teaching, I think, that’s so difficult to do as a parent, cuz what you really want to do is protect them and lock ‘em up until it’s time, but the bravest thing to do is have these free range kids, exploring the edges of their universe, but doing it in ways they are proud of, not hiding from.

Wow, I must say that to me defines the shift we need to take in society, to start to build a sustainable and constantly learning society. Let us encourage free range kids, kids who explore the edges of their universe!

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What might happen if you expored the edges of your universe?

Part 3, Seth at On Being

Continuing my ponderings from listening to Seth Godin being interviewed by Krista Tippitt on On Being, I am reminded of the world that I believe we can create, a world that works better than today.

Seth talks about building your tribe, and he talks about tribes in a new form, where the internet helps to create tribes not limited by geography.

The challenge of our future is… are we going to connect and amplify positive tribes, that want to make things better for all of us, or are we going to degrade to warring tribes, who are willing to bring other groups down, just so they can get ahead.

Fia med knuffI believe in a world of positive tribes, a world where we help each other out, rather than compete against each other. Water, for instance, will likely be a scarce resource in the future. Should we fight fr it or collaborate? I’m not saying it will be easy to get to a world of positive tribes, but it can be done. Do you agree?

Part 2, Seth at On Being

While listening to Krista Tippitt interviewing Seth Godin I stopped many times to take notes. Here’s one.

Seth is big on creativity, and wisely stated:

Everybody has the possibility of
being an artist
rather than a cog

I have written about cogs myself in a guest blog post (in Swedish). I think we all are cogs in the sense that we are all closely connected, and all that I do influence the world and people in it more than I can imagine.


But what Seth is speaking about is the fact that these cogs are not identical. We are not interchangeable parts, churned out in billions. Rather, we are unique, we each have our onlyness, but we can make more or less of it.

What’s your artistry?