Podcast 17/52 – lethal absence of hope

Here’s an episode of On Being with Krista Tippitt that I listened to first time around a couple of years ago. I recently listened to it again, and it affected me as much second time around. It’s with a Jesuit priest named Greg Boyle, famous for his work with gangs and gang members in and around Los Angeles. Perhaps you’ve heard about Homeboy Industries?

In the podcast, Greg Boyle describe what gangs are all about in this way:

It’s about a lethal absence of hope. It’s about kids who can’t imagine a future for themselves. It’s about kids who aren’t seeking anything when they join a gang. It’s about the fact that they’re always fleeing something, always, without exception. So it shifts the way you see things. Somebody, Bertrand Russell or somebody, said, ”If you want to change the world, change the metaphor.” And that’s kind of how we want to — I think we need to proceed in something like this. So if you think it’s the Middle East, you’re quite mistaken. If you think it’s Northern Ireland, wrong again. It’s about kids who’ve ceased to care. So you want to infuse young people with hope when it seems that hope is foreign.

BoldomaticPost_It-s-about-a-lethal-absence-oA lethal absence of hope.

Oh, that’s powerful.
That hit me right in the gut.

And there’s so much more in this podcast, so please, take a listen. (And you can actually read it as well, but I do urge you to listen. There’s a feeling behind the words that is very apparent when listening to Father Greg speak about his homies.)

If what we are facing is a lethal absence of hope, and I don’t doubt it for a minute – what can I do? What can we do? What is there to do? And I don’t mean specifically about the gangs of Los Angeles. I mean about the lethal absence of hope that is visible everywhere. I don’t think there’s a country on earth, not facing just that somewhere or other within the confines of its borders. Do you?

So how to approach a lethal absence of hope?


Podcast 9/52 – Love and Sex and Attachment

Today marks the start of the blog challenge #Blogg100 in Sweden, and just as the last two years, I’ve decided to play. However, I have no real plan for doing anything other than what I normally do, which is blog daily…. but, who knows, I might think of something special as I go along.

However, today is Sunday, and it’s time for my ninth podcast tip, and I’m opting for an episode from On Being with anthropologist Helen Fisher, called Love and sex and attachment. I listened to the episode earlier this week, and just like a few other podcasts, immediately re-listened once finished. Today as I found the link for the episode I see Helen Fishers photo, and was a bit surprised. Her voice doesn’t sound like she looks. Have you ever experienced that? Anyway, that’s a side note.

Love, sex, attachment. I mean – you can’t really go wrong there, can you? It’s something we are all interested in and affected by. And that’s actually the reason why Helen got into this area of scientific enquiry in the first place, because she was so interested in that which ties us together, that which we all have a relationship to, the similarities between people, rather than that which separates us.

BoldomaticPost_relationships-evolve-and-a-goOne of the take away’s for me from this podcast is the ever-changing nature of relationships, and that it’s actually a sign of a good relationship, that it is constantly changing, growing, evolving. And you know why? Because life in itself is constantly changing – nothing is permanent. We have somehow gotten tricked into believing it is, or should be, but in reality, life is dependent on change, changing thoughts, changing needs, changing mental states, changing relationships. So how could we ever believe that any one person, or any one relationship, could be permanent? Is it a need for safety and security that have warped somehow? Perhaps due to the loss of the local community, that Krista Tippitt and Helen Fisher also touch on in the show?


Listen for the unknown #4

Why not stay where we left of with #3 yesterday with On being? Here’s another podcast from the same show, or actually, it’s old enough to be from Speaking of faith, which is what On being was called before. It’s been a few years since I first heard this specific podcast, and it’s remained with me since then. I just relistened to it and it’s as rich and rewarding today, as it was first time I listened to it. I remembered it to be called Being autistic, being human, but it turns out the episode is called Autism and humanity.

prepared to lose

What do you hear that you’ve never heard before?

Listen for the unknown #3

Curious if you, like me, heard anything that stopped you dead in your tracks when you listened to the podcast from The One You Feed in #2?

Today, on to another of my absolute favorite podcasts, that I just realised I haven’t listened to all year. Most definitely want to change that for 2015, because On Being with Krista Tippitt holds loads of unknowns for me. Here’s lots to listen for, that I’ve never heard before, and Kristas style of being in conversation during her interviews is right up my alley.

Here’s an episode called Inner life at work, with guest Tami Simon.


What do you hear that you’ve never heard before?

Part 4, Seth at On Being

Seth Godin on On Being with Krista Tippit, part 4. I have gotten a whole lot more from this podcast, but these four blog posts are what made it into visible form.

They end their talk with talking about how we encourage or discourage children to contribute to society. Seth ponders:

Kids’ role as a contributor to society starts now when they are ten, not when they are twenty four, and that the trail they leave behind starts the minute someone snaps their picture.

If we can teach children that there isn’t this bright line between off duty and on duty, but that life is life, and you ought to live it like people are looking at you, cuz they are. Then we trust them, and we trust them to be bigger than they could be, because they chose to be bigger.

And it’s that teaching, I think, that’s so difficult to do as a parent, cuz what you really want to do is protect them and lock ‘em up until it’s time, but the bravest thing to do is have these free range kids, exploring the edges of their universe, but doing it in ways they are proud of, not hiding from.

Wow, I must say that to me defines the shift we need to take in society, to start to build a sustainable and constantly learning society. Let us encourage free range kids, kids who explore the edges of their universe!

Sia in i framtiden

What might happen if you expored the edges of your universe?

Part 3, Seth at On Being

Continuing my ponderings from listening to Seth Godin being interviewed by Krista Tippitt on On Being, I am reminded of the world that I believe we can create, a world that works better than today.

Seth talks about building your tribe, and he talks about tribes in a new form, where the internet helps to create tribes not limited by geography.

The challenge of our future is… are we going to connect and amplify positive tribes, that want to make things better for all of us, or are we going to degrade to warring tribes, who are willing to bring other groups down, just so they can get ahead.

Fia med knuffI believe in a world of positive tribes, a world where we help each other out, rather than compete against each other. Water, for instance, will likely be a scarce resource in the future. Should we fight fr it or collaborate? I’m not saying it will be easy to get to a world of positive tribes, but it can be done. Do you agree?

Part 2, Seth at On Being

While listening to Krista Tippitt interviewing Seth Godin I stopped many times to take notes. Here’s one.

Seth is big on creativity, and wisely stated:

Everybody has the possibility of
being an artist
rather than a cog

I have written about cogs myself in a guest blog post (in Swedish). I think we all are cogs in the sense that we are all closely connected, and all that I do influence the world and people in it more than I can imagine.


But what Seth is speaking about is the fact that these cogs are not identical. We are not interchangeable parts, churned out in billions. Rather, we are unique, we each have our onlyness, but we can make more or less of it.

What’s your artistry?

Part 1, Seth at On Being

Please take a look at On Being with Krista Tippitt, if you have yet to do so. It’s one of my favorite podcasts, and since it’s been published for many years, it’s like a goldmine!

Fötter i snön

During a winter walk 2013 I was listening to Krista interviewing Seth Godin. I have gotten a lot of insight from reading Seth’s work, and if you haven’t discovered him yet, here’s your chance.

He is a marketing guy, but he defines marketing differently, from what normally think about when I think marketing. He’s into making an impact and I am reminded of Jocke Jardenberg who says ”Be honest and do good shit.” when I write this.

Seth says this can be a way to success:

Doing things for the right reason,
for the first time,
in a way that have an impact.

That is, you need to do what you do based on more than your own satisfaction and well-being. If you are the first one to think of doing this, and you do it to better the world in one way or the other – chances are you will build your tribe and be successful at what you do (success for me meaning getting by, not hoarding outrageous amounts of money).

What’s your impact?

Podcasts, en källa till inspiration

Inspiration kan jag få från många ställen, och jag njuter av det närhelst det uppstår – det där magiska ögonblicket då en gnista uppstår. Tycker om att lyssna på podcasts, och ibland slår det gott om gnistor ska du veta!

Elden, fokus, brinna, handling

Har just förberett fyra blogginlägg som alla hämtar inspiration från en och samma podcast. I det fallet rör det sig om Krista Tippitts fantastiska podcast On Being, men jag har fler podcasts som jag gillar. Tänkte jag skulle tipsa dig om dem under sommaren, och hoppas att du vill ge mig dina favoriter i gengäld. On Being är en engelsk podcast som namnet antyder. Jag älskar det engelska språket och började lyssna på podcasts som min bror tipsat mig om. Eftersom han bott i USA och nu bor i England, blev det engelskspråkiga podcasts som blev min ingång helt enkelt. Det är bara några månader sedan jag börjat lyssna allt mer på svenska podcasts.

Vilka podcasts vill du tipsa om?

Att uppnå oenighet!

Krista TippettOn Being gör det igen. Hon väcker min nyfikenhet, ger tankespjärn som möjliggör insikter och aha-upplevelser. The future of marriage med David Blankenhorn och Jonathan Rauch är en helt fantastisk podcast!


Här får du möta två individer, som kommer från två helt motsatta åsikter, i frågan om samkönat äktenskap. Krista är en väldigt smidig intervjuare som verkligen gör sin hemläxa inför varje intervju. Jonathan och David har debatterat mot varandra i 15 år eller så. Under den tiden har de byggt upp en vänskapsrelation, som ledde till att de till slut möttes i vad de själva kallar achieving disagreement, dvs, att uppnå oenighet. Och det som sticker ut här är deras insikt att för att verkligen kunna förstå varandras olika perspektiv, så måste man också veta vad man är ense om.

En helt fantastisk berättelse, vars budskap till mig är vikten av att kunna sätta sig in i hur frågan ser ut för motparten. Nog skulle världen se annorlunda ut då. Att dessa två män har kunnat mötas på detta vis, och visar varandra en sådan enorm respekt, det inger hopp om framtiden!

Har läst nånstans att om parterna i en kärleksrelation besitter förmågan att se på saker från den andres synvinkel, så är det ofantligt mycket större chans att båda parter upplever sig vara lyckliga och även anser sig ha en riktigt bra kärleksrelation. Och givetvis är detta allmängiltigt, och högst relevant i alla relationer.

När satte du dig senast in i ”den andres” perspektiv, i en fnurra eller ett bråk? Gjorde det någon skillnad?