Böcker som gjort skillnad

På Facebook har det under en period förekommit en fråga som lyder ”Vilka tio litterära verk har bidragit till att forma dig?”, och jag blev taggad av tre personer att svara på frågan. Det har tagit mig en stund att samla mig, men till slut fick jag till det. Har idag lagt ut nedanstående på Facebook, men tänkte för skojs skull dela det även här på bloggen.

Här kommer de 10 böcker (eller serier) som verkligen sticker ut i mitt huvud, i just denna stund, för att de betytt något för mig, på det ena eller andra sättet. Böckerna presenteras utan rangordning, detta är endast i den ordning de kom till mig.

1) Munken som sålde sin Ferrari – Robin Sharma
En bok som satte mycket griller i huvudet på mig, framför allt kring det faktum att saker inte måste göras som de görs, bara för att de gjorts på det viset så länge att folk tror det är så det ska göras.

2) The inside-out revolution – Michael Neill
Rolig och tankeväckande bok om livet, på klassiskt Michael Neill-maner, en man jag lärt känna under Supercoach Academy 2014. Finns även i svensk översättning och heter då Livet inifrån och ut.

3) The Missing Link – Sydney Banks
Kort, fin, kärnfull bok om den felande länken i vår förståelse hur livet fungerar.

4) Godnatt Mister Tom – Michelle Magorian
En av mina favoritböcker som barn, vet inte hur många gånger jag läste den under min barndom.

5) Tai Pan och efterföljande böcker i den serien – James Clavell
Sommaren då jag fyllde 13 var mitt liv något turbulent, och jag flydde in i böckernas värld. Bland annat plöjde jag alla dessa Clavell-böcker, men stor glädje. För snacka om flykt undan det som var min verklighet!

6) A fine balance – Rohinton Mistry
Tegelstensroman om fyra människoöden som flätas in i varandras, utspelar sig i Indien. Plöjde under 22 timmar i sträck under en vistelse i Thailand då min bror bodde där. Brukar benämna den ”den bästa bok jag någonsin läst”. Läs den helst på originalspråket engelska, då språket är så fantastiskt vackert, och jag är rädd att översättningen inte gör den rättvisa!

7) Vilda svanar – Jung Chang
Alltid älskat att läsa böcker om Kina, och detta är en som sticker ut extra mycket då den verkligen var gripande.

8) Enders spel och efterföljande böcker i den serien – Orson Scott Card
Älskar tegelstenar, och bortsett från inledande Enders spel är de efterföljande böckerna riktiga tegelstenar. Älskar science fiction och science fantasy, kanske just för att det är ett så härligt avbrott från verkligheten jag lever.

9) Alltid hos dig – Maria Ernestam
Tog med pocketboken till Indien då jag arbetade där, och hade för avsikt att lämna boken efter mig, till efterföljande resenärer. Men när jag snyftat mig igenom den var jag tvungen att packa ner den i resväskan och släpa den med hem, för jag ville att maken skulle få en chans att läsa den.

10) Stäppens krigare och efterföljande böcker i serien om Djingis & Kublai Kahn – Conn Iggulden
Igen… tegelstenar, gärna i form av en riktigt lång serie. Då blir jag lycklig,
när de är välskrivna, roliga, intressanta och/eller spännande. Och det är denna serien definitivt. Gillar Igguldens böcker överlag, men detta är min favoritserie hittills.

(Bonus: Spejarens lärling, bokserie av John Flanagan är en science fantasy-serie för barn/ungdomar som jag själv läst med stor förtjusning och glädje. Rekommenderas varmt den med, tror dessutom den kan vara en riktigt fin högläsningsserie!)

Tack Anders, Anna och Charlotte för propån, det har varit en skön stund att tänka på vilka böcker som gjort ett stort avtryck i mig. Jag älskar böcker, jag älskar läsning, och kanske kanske någon får ett infall att plocka upp någon av de böcker jag nämner ovan. Kanske det kan bidra till att få dig i bättre #läsform!

Böckernas värld

Vilka 10 litterära verk har bidragit till att forma dig?

Held in a space of love

Being held in a space of love, that beats most things I’ve experienced. That’s what a great coach (for me) will do. And that’s what I experience at Supercoach Academy as well. space of loveBeing held in a space of love opens up for discovery of things within that I didn’t know were there to find. It opens for grabbing onto a story of mine, shining some light on it, and watching it dissolve into nothingness, because that’s what stories are. They really are nothing, but for the fact that we place meaning onto them. They are a thought, that we believe to be real, and that’s why they seem ream. But they are a thought, and it’s only when I ”have something on that thought” that it seems real to me.

During the last weekend with SCA2014, I was listening to a chat between Michael Neill and George Pransky, when George said something to the effect of:
It’s the meaning you put on ”it”, that is causing your distress.

(”It” being whatever it is you put meaning to, whatever it is you are dicussing, bringing up, getting stuck on.)

I can see this in my life, nowadays. I can see myself when I am in distress, and know where that feeling comes from. It doesn’t mean I don’t experience distress anymore. Not at all! That happens, all the time, because it’s part of the human experience on earth. It happens to us all. Period. But I know where my distress is coming from, and knowing that makes it seem slightly less real for me. It makes me not take that distress as Fact, as something that Must be. It makes me see the distress as a feeling I am experiencing, because I have a thought of some sort. And I feel the feeling. That’s a given. But I no longer believe that feeling to be a Must. It’s not a feeling that is inevitable. It’s not a feeling which is the only true response given the situation. It’s A feeling. Not THE feeling.

And when I am held in a space of love, I can begin to question my beliefs, question the stories I’m telling myself to be real. And that process is a miraculous journey, that free’s me up, expands me, makes it possible to let go of restrictions that don’t serve me (anymore), and mostly, for me, it means my energy is not wasted on conserving the stories of my life. The energy can be used for much greater thing. I don’t have to waste energy trying to maintain a status quo that is a construct of my thinking, instead the energy can be used, in the moment, for whatever want’s to show up, whatever wants to happen.

Have you ever been held in a space of love?

Supercoach!

I’m now officially a certified transformative coach, a graduate of the Supercoach Academy 2014, and I have to tell you – it’s a great feeling!

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It has been a nine month journey unlike any I’ve ever experienced, and I am grateful for getting on the ride!

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Went for a quick dip in the ocean before continuing my travels, and was playing around a bit in the sand. And as you can see, from now on I’m not only HERO the coach, I am HERO the supercoach. And that feels great.

Now I’m gonna rest in the feeling and knowledge of having accomplished this for a while longer, and then – who knows! I’m certainly curious to find out what will be around the corner. Are you?

Brainwashed on all levels

Michael Neill just shared a video clip on Facebook, I watched it while brushing my teeth and I just knew I had to share this with you all, because it sent goose bumps (or God bumps, as a friend calls it!) all down my body. Talk about wisdom, deep deep wisdom ringing oh so true, speaking to me, all of me:

Prince Ea talks about opening to new possibilities, about a mankind brainwashed on all levels, beliving what our culture has told us, forgetting that we create that culture, each and every day, and hence, it’s within each of us to change it, to transform it. He speaks about war and violence perhaps creating short term results, but never, NEVER, getting to any lasting solution.

And he says something else as well, something filled with hope, something that sent shivers down my entire body. He speaks about the chance I have, and you have, and we have, of making a real difference, if we just stop, question that which we have been told to be the truth, and start to look within, looking for that which is looking to the outside. Look for the answer to the question of who I am, who you are, in the deepest sense of the word.

And with hope he states that when more of mankind find the deepest answer to that question, we can transform into kind man.

I’m floored. I’m wowed. And yet, this is not new to me. This is what I believe, and have believed for a couple of years at least. But sometimes a message is delivered in a way that just cuts to the core of me. And this was one of those times. I will carry this with me today. And tomorrow.

And so – the question remains:
In the deepest sense possible, who are you?

Why aren’t we awesomer?

Michael Neill participated in TEDxBend and I just got a hold of his talk. I laughed, and figured that I no longer have to ponder what to post today. Here it comes:

As a student on Supercoach Academy 2014 I have the pleasure of spending time with Michael, and I have to say, this is the best investments I’ve ever made! And you know what really rocks my world? That I’m investing in me. That’s a fab feeling (stemming from a thought!), let me tell you!

Have you ever given any thought to thoughts (yours or in general)?

Where do thoughts come from?

Can I control what thoughts I think?
(Spoiler: No you cannot! Thought come, thoughts go, and that’s all there is to that!)

What do they result in?

If thoughts lead to a feeling (Spoiler number two: My feelings comes from thoughts. All of them. All.), do I have to believe in that feeling?

Do I have to act upon it?
(Spoiler number three: No you don’t. And acknowledging that what I feel – which is genuine, the feeling is there – stems from a thought, makes it much easier for me to act, rather than react! Try it out and see for yourself.)

So, why aren’t we awesomer? What’s your take on that question?

Drop the agenda

What happens when you drop all thoughts on having an agenda, and just do this:
* Show up
* Respond to what shows up

These are two points that Michael Neill talk about, and I’ve only recently started to experiment with it. For real. And I can tell you, what I’ve experienced so far makes me want to try this even more, on more occasions. For one thing, coming to a meeting with another human being, without an agenda, without any thoughts on wanting this person as a coaching client, on me knowing what would be the best thing for this person in this instance, on wanting to help or fix this person, means that I am more present to the situation at hand. It means I am not already dead set on how to go about it, what will be the outcome, having fixed goals for what I want to happen, etc. And that really makes it easier to experience touching the silence. It makes the meeting much more real, somehow.

Now. It’s actually not so easy, I’ve discovered. Or, at least, it’s not something I am used to. Quite the opposite. I’m used to being prepared, knowing what to say, what to show, and often times, having a clear agenda as to the desired outcome. And somehow, when I am there, with a clear agenda, the magic is missing. Something’s missing. It falls short, not really living up to its potential. Not fully becoming all in the moment that it could be.

Two other things I’ve noticed about this:
First, I believe I would have a much harder time showing up without an agenda, if it was something I was not certain about, or knowledgeable about, perhaps is more the word for it. That is, if you asked me to go deliver a speech about the state of EUs financial policies and structures, I’d freak out. There is not way I would be able to do that in this manner of showing up. Because I have no clue whatsoever about the financial policies of the European Union. Go find someone else, who knows this stuff, please. But ask me to come talk about my dream of changing the school systems on a global scale by 2020, and I can just show up, and respond to what shows up. Without a doubt. I might not do it that way, but it’s an area where the possibility of it happening is much greater that the first example.

Second, this is not the way society is set up, somehow. When did you last show up, without an agenda? If you go to the doctor, you want the doctor to diagnose you. The doctor meets a patient, with the same agenda, to help the patient. Teachers meet their students with very clear agendas, on What learning should take place, and often times, How. You go to the bank, wanting a loan. Not just to see what shows up. You make a business appointment, wanting to sell your brilliant idea, or to get a hand shake on a joint venture. 20140508-214622.jpgI could think of thousands of these instances, where showing up with an agenda, is what is – mostly – done.

And yet, the magic happens, for me, when I drop it. When I drop the agenda, drop what I WANT to happen (sometimes oh so desperately!), just show up, and respond to what shows up.

Does this make sense to you?

 

The art of forgiveness

On the art of forgiving by the way, inspired by Hector Black.

I’ve not been best friends with forgivness for a while. Or perhaps best friends isn’t the word for it, but there is something about the way we use it, that rubs me the wrong way. I think we abuse it, telling kids to Say you’re sorry! for almost everything, and brushing it off afterwards, as if that’s that.

The Swedish author Ann Heberlein wrote a great book on forgiveness (in Swedish alas, the title being ”It’s not my fault, on the art of taking responsibility”, and it is thought provoking. She tells a story of a kid being bullied at school. When the bullies wanted to say they were sorry, the victim of the bullying refused to accept their apology, and all of a sudden the tables turned. Suddenly the bullies felt like they were the victims, as their victim refused to forgive them. The original victim of the bullying was more or less ostracized by both kids and adults at the school because she would not accept the apology.

That story gave me a lot to think about, I tell you. There is power in forgiveness, that way we use it, and somehow I feel we might be misusing it?

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Who am I to tell someone to ”say you’re sorry”? And who am I to tell someone to accept that apology?

But I got some new insight into the concept of forgiveness during the first SuperCoach Academy weekend in Santa Monica, when Michael Neill said something like this:

To forgive means to make like it never happened. When you forgive, it means that you essentially go back in time to before what ever it is you forgive took place. If you are not willing to do that, there is no forgiveness.

That was a new take on forgiveness that I have not pondered before. It makes my thinking tumble along, doing a cart wheel or two on the way to more understanding and insight. Putting it into the Heberlein story on the bully and the bullied, I guess the victim of the bullying simply wasn’t willing to act like it never happened. And hence, forgiving her assailants wasn’t an option.

Have you ever thought of forgiveness in this way?