Giving away control?

Alan Watts speaks about organic leadership with his slightly hypnotic voice, and I freeze. Pause. Listen very intently. Play the clip over and over again, at least four times in a row. Hear new things everytime, am moved by what I hear.

In giving away the control, you’ve got it!

That’s a sentence that rings very true to me today, but just two, three years ago, it would have terrified me. I desperately needed,or thought I needed, to have the type of control Alan refers to here, the one lording over everyone else, fighting hard to get things done my way, not believing anyone else was as capable as me so I’d really better just do it myself from the get go etc.

And now…. who’s to say my way is the best way? Well. I was. Back then. Not so much anymore. Back then I wasn’t great at trusting others, but today, I’ve come to know – fully, in the deepest part of me, soul and all – that the act of trust that Alan speaks about is the way of love and acceptance.

In giving away the control, you’ve got it.

That sentence doesn’t terrify me at all now. How about you? Is there anything you *believe you* have control over that you could not relinquish?

Being OK with what is

As I have an enormous amount of conversations at the moment, I keep being reminded about one of the key factors in the transformation I’ve undergone these past years. And I even got a reminder of it from the daily EnneaThoughts that I subscribe to since many years back:


Being OK with what is, accepting whatever emotion I’m feeling in any given moment. If you don’t recognize this, I hesitate as to whether or not you can you even begin to understand what a difference that acceptance makes, compared to constant inner fighting, not being OK with my feelings, not wanting to feel what I was feeling, and believing I was bad for feeling what I felt.

Oh the energy I’ve wasted over the years, I cannot even begin to fathom the extent of it….

But no more!

And guess what? I don’t beat myself up for the energy I’ve wasted over the years either. What’s done is done, and thanks to me doing it, I’m where I am at today, so really, it’s a blessing!

Because today, I am ok with what ever state of mind I am in. I am, truly, ok with it. I accept, fully, and with that comes complete and utter compassion and love. For me, but also for the world I live in.

This also means that even if/when life sucks, I’m ok, I’m good, and most of all, I don’t have to run away from what is, or fight myself for being where I am. I can just be with what is.

Are you ok with what is or do you fight it?

On war

Via Troed Troedson I found this interview with Hermann Göring:
Interview with Gustave Gilbert in Göring’s jail cell during the Nuremberg War Crimes Trials (18 April 1946).

Göring: Why, of course, the people don’t want war. Why would some poor slob on a farm want to risk his life in a war when the best that he can get out of it is to come back to his farm in one piece? Naturally, the common people don’t want war; neither in Russia nor in England nor in America, nor for that matter in Germany.

That is understood. But, after all, it is the leaders of the country who determine the policy and it is always a simple matter to drag the people along, whether it is a democracy or a fascist dictatorship or a Parliament or a Communist dictatorship.

Gilbert: There is one difference. In a democracy, the people have some say in the matter through their elected representatives, and in the United States only Congress can declare wars.

Göring: Oh, that is all well and good, but, voice or no voice, the people can always be brought to the bidding of the leaders. That is easy. All you have to do is tell them they are being attacked and denounce the pacifists for lack of patriotism and exposing the country to danger. It works the same way in any country.


Isn’t it scary how much truth there is to this quote, even today? It really makes me realize the importance of the leaders we chose to vote for/believe in/trust with governing our countries.

How can we – the people, the masses – be so easily swayed from love and acceptance towards hatred and violence? Why is it so hard to stay in the place of love, the space where we are one, and not divided into warring factions?



How good are you at acceptance? I have, historically, not been good at it at all, but I’m getting there. I got this EnneaThought yesterday though, and it sparked some thoughts:


I have gotten really good at accepting myself as I am. But also at loving myself, a step up from acceptance in my view. The same goes for other people. But the world. Hm. That’s a trickier issue I must say.

And I guess it really is the same process in work here. You see, when it comes to myself, I no longer believe I have to ”better myself”. I don’t see me as a self-improvement project, the Do-It-Yourself variety. Rather, all the changes that I go through, are me becoming more me. It’s be allowing myself to be me, fully. It’s me, shedding the layers of stuff, issues, constraints, patterns that I have put on myself, or had put on me by society because I thought that was ”the way it’s supposed to be”.

The same goes for the world I just realized. I accept the world as it is, but want to assist in letting the world shed all the stuff, issues, constraints and patterns that we – society – place upon the world, letting the world be more itself. Because I believe those patterns aren’t serving us or the world. And they are not natural laws or musts. They are mostly made up of beliefs and systems.

Interesting this. When I first read that statement, I felt a huge resistance to it. How to accept the world as it is, when I don’t think it is perfect and at the peak of what we can achieve, as mankind.

But during the time it’s taken me to write this blog post, I have let go of the resistance, the acceptance has grown, and I see that the world is perfect – it’s just that there’s a lot of stuff in the way of that perfectness shining through.

Far out? Yeah, likely. I’m ok with that. Are you? Do you accept yourself, others and the world just as they are?