8/24 – Putting life on pause


Do you think I should do this? Or that?
What do you think of this? Or that? 
Which one do you thing I should choose? This one? Or that one?

Reassurance. Asking for someone outside of yourself to make your choice for you. In a sense, that’s actually what it is. Putting the power over your life and your choices, in the hands of somebody else. What for?

You run the risk of being put on pause. On hold. Waiting for the response from your father, wife, boss, co-worker, teacher or best friend. Not being able to move on, using the energy of the moment, because you are… what? Afraid you might make the wrong decision? Might pick the wrong thing? Walk down a path you should not have chosen?

Letting others choose for you might seem like an easy way to live life. But is it really your life then?

Reflection #8 of 24 from the notes I took and the experience I had at the Seth Godin Q&A-session in London, November 2015. These reflections will constitute my Advent Calendar for 2015, and will be posted daily from December 1st to the 24th.

Love or hate?

Watched a brilliant TED Talk during lunch:

Very interesting to hear Jeremy Heiman talk about the difference between old and new power, as well as old and new values. I resonate with the new power and the new values, and there is a lot of recognition there, from my experiences in social media during these past years.

As today is #NoHateSe-day in Sweden, I cannot help but make a connection to what Jeremy also speaks about, which is his point that new power by no means equals positive power. That depends on the values we come from, which in turn is dependent upon a choice we have to make, each and every one of us. Because both you and I have a choice in how we show up in the world.


Do you want to come from a point of hate, or a point of love? For me the choice is easy. I try to come from love, in all I do. And that might sound really hippyish and spaced out, but you know what I’ve noticed? The biggest difference is in me. When I come from a place of love, my life is better. Heck, it’s heaps better! Even when life sucks, and I’m in a bad mood, it’s still loads better, than when I came from a more negative and hateful place.

What’s your choice, love or hate?

Winter of the world

I love to read. I love books. And honestly love physical books more than ebooks, however digital I’ve become in other ways. The only time I truly prefer ebooks is when I am travelling. Then they absolutely rock!Bok

Anyway, I finished a huge book last night, and I wanted to share it with you. I love to read really thick books, but it’s been a while since I read such a thick book as this one. Just over 900 pages. Yeah!

The Winter of the world by Ken Follett is about Europe during the twenties to the forties and it’s a gruesome story of power struggles, war and politics mixed with love, connections and hope. Ken Follett is an author I’ve read quite a lot by, but not for a while. And he’s productive, so I have a few more brick like books to entertain myself with over the summer. And actually, this is the second book in a trilogy, and I haven’t read the first one, so I have to get a hold of that one ASAP. I’m gonna order it at the library right away.

What’s your favorite type of book?

The Moth – you move me! Over and over again.

Listened to the most amazing story a couple of months ago, when playing an episode of The Moth Radio hour. It was an old man named Hector Black who told a gruesome, but hopeful, story of a murder, and the forgiveness that came out of it. If you have a chance – find that copy of The Moth Radiohour, and give it your undivided attention. This specific part of the show can be listened to directly from The Moth website as well: https://themoth.org/stories/forgiveness


The feeling I get from listening to this story will stay with me for a long time. I actually listened to it while driving to a customer, and I have to say this: The story Hector Black tell, pack such a punch, that I recommend you just sit down and listen to it, not trying to focus on anything other than listening. You most definitely should not be on any moving vehicle, if you are the driver of it!

The power of a story never cease to surprise me. And this one was powerful. Oh so powerful.

What story would you want to share with the world?

A symphony of second chances

Every day my students turn my classroom into a symphony of second chances. – Clint Smith

That phrase makes me shiver. Not unpleasantly at all, but rather from the sheer power of it, and from my desire to have that possibility of second chances be more present in the school system. Well. Why stop there. I want to see it on a global scale.

The phrase is spoken by Clint Smith in this TEDx Talk:

Here’s another beautiful phrase from the talk:

I carry their stories like a back pocket full of prayers.

The talk is captioned Celebrating resilience. Isn’t that one of natures foremost traits? Resilience. The abilility to endure, to bounce back, to survive and even prosper, despite harsh conditions.

Clint shares the resilience of his students, in a poetic and gripping narrative. I think most people have a story of resilience. I know I have a couple. Who would I be without those stories, told and retold. Who would you be without your stories?