16/24 – Is there trust?

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Mmm. You’ve been there. So have I. Too many times.

When that which shouldn’t happen, happens.
A mistake.
A white lie that erupts and turns into the lie from hell.
An unexpected turn of events, when worst comes to worst.

And, oh yes. Is that ever a sure way to know, if trust exists or not.

Close my eyes.
Remember. Back when I was 9 months pregnant with my first child. Another millennia.
Had gotten a phone call from my husband, the father of my unborn child, whom I’d been together with for ten years.

I’m breaking up with you.

Hard to believe. Difficult to take in.
That didn’t happen to someone like me. Couldn’t. Shouldn’t.

When he came home later that day, or possibly the day after, I asked…

Would you stay with me tonight?

I just wanted to be held. To forget. For a moment. That life had just turned upside down, and I was going to become a parent in a totally different manner than I’d planned for.

No. I can’t.

That’s when I knew. Whatever trust had been, was no more. Not there. I never let that stop me from trusting again, though.

I am, at heart, a person who trusts.
Would life be life without it?

Reflection #16 of 24 from the notes I took and the experience I had at the Seth Godin Q&A-session in London, November 2015. These reflections will constitute my Advent Calendar for 2015, and will be posted daily from December 1st to the 24th.

3/24 – How do I do Trust?

One of the things that have really impressed me with Seth Godin is how he uses one element to navigate his work (and I presume life) by: Trust.

I remember listening to him in a podcast saying he determines what to do or not, by asking a simple question of himself: Does this scale trust? 
If the answer is Yes, he goes ahead. If No, he moves on to the next thing.trustSo when asked something akin to ”What will be the divider between those who make it and those who don’t, in the coming years?” he replied Trust and Attention. That is what will determine what we see, hear, shop, eat, where we work, the clothes we wear and so on in the decades ahead.

Now. I understand what he means with Trust, or so I believe at least. The level of trust I hold for someone, something, depend upon what they do, how they do it, and or me, why they do it in the first place. If there is coherence there, and it fits in with the way I show up in the world, I will trust.

But what does he mean with Attention?

Is it this: Those who works out a way to get attention from the masses, will be makers and shakers ahead regardless of what the product is? Somehow I don’t think so.

Might it be this then: Those who knows how to scale trust, and has a great product (a physical or digital object, a service, whatever your thing is) to put out into the world, will attract the attention of those who vibrate on the same frequency?

Or this: That which I put attention on is what I will see more of in the future?

Or something completely different?
I don’t know. What’s your take on it?

Reflection #3 of 24 from the notes I took and the experience I had at the Seth Godin Q&A-session in London, November 2015. These reflections will constitute my Advent Calendar for 2015, and will be posted daily from December 1st to the 24th.

Head count or heart count?

Talked to a client about leadership, and was reminded of this TED Talk by Simon Sinek:

I have a feeling that leadership today isn’t about asserting my will, fighting to get everyone onboard my ship, but rather to harness the strength and potential of all in my surroundings, to achieve something that also will benefit the world in a broader sense.

Achievement for your company, at the cost of others, isn’t sustainable, and I would argue that it’s not beneficial for anyone, really. Achievement for me at the cost of you, I believe is harmful. To us both. Because when we step on somebody else to get to the top, we are hurting ourselves at the same time, because we are connected.

I look forward to the day when I see more and more proof of the circle of trust that Simon talks about, the one where we count hearts rather than heads. I can actively participate in creating this future. And so can you. How? You tell me! What can you do today to take a step towards this future?