Showing up is a choice

How do you show up in the world? What’s the energy you bring with you, into that which you are, and that which you do? It’s interesting that, how energy shows up, how the feeling behind the words matter so much, often more than the words themselves.

I stumbled upon a quote by Marianne Williamson the other day about this:

Marianne Williamson

Marianne Williamson is also the lady behind these words (wrongly attributed to Nelson Mandela), which you may have seen before:

“Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness that most frightens us. We ask ourselves, ‘Who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, fabulous?’ Actually, who are you not to be? You are a child of God. Your playing small does not serve the world. There is nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people won’t feel insecure around you. We are all meant to shine, as children do. We were born to make manifest the glory of God that is within us. It’s not just in some of us; it’s in everyone. And as we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same. As we are liberated from our own fear, our presence automatically liberates others.”

I am getting to know myself, light and darkness alike, and find it interesting to ponder the way I do show up in the world. When do I let my light shine? When am I immersing myself in my darkness? And what difference does it make for you and the rast of the world, in how I show up, when I come from light versus darkness?

I don’t know. Or rather, I know how it feels within me. I know what the difference is, to me, for when I come from the light vs darkness within me. Now, I actually believe there is a great deal to learn from both those sides of me. Both, by the way, makes it sound like I have one light and one dark side within, when it’s likely millions of sides within me, constituting my light, and my darkness. Constantly shifting, evolving, moving. Sometimes expanding. Sometimes shrinking.

Showing upBut all the time, whether expanding or shrinking, influencing how I show up in the world. And that’s just it. I want to show up, as I am, in any given moment. Nowadays it’s more rare for me to try to pose, put on a show, act as something which I am not. It happens though. And it’s very familiar to me, since it’s something I’ve struggled a lot with.

You see, I used to believe that my worth lay in the fact that you liked me and believed I was knowledgeable. That’s why I pretended to know everything. Putting on a show of being in the know, even when I wasn’t.

Now, less and less. It still happens, probably on a daily basis if I’m being honest. But it’s no longer my default mode, pretending to know. Because really – I don’t. There’s so much I don’t know, and today, that doesn’t frighten me the way it used to. Because that’s what that show was all about. My fear of not being worthy. Believing my worth lay outside of me.

That’s no longer the place I come from. It’s no longer how I show up. And I enjoy it, but it’s also very uncomfortable at times, let me tell you. Sometimes I really want to let rip unto the world, some injustice I believe have been done unto me. But many times, that urge quickly falls away, because that’s also something which I’ve gotten better at, namely to act, rather than react.

Hm. Perhaps that’s the biggest factor in how I show up in the world today, now that I come to think of it. I act. Much more deliberately.

That might sound as if it’s even more of an act I put on by being deliberate, but really – no, I think it’s the opposite. Because by giving myself that pause, that moment to look at where I am coming from, I am neither slave to light nor darkness within me. I get to chose how to show up in the world. And so do you. Ever given it any thought?

Kan en människa påverka?

Intervjuar deltagare och personal på en skola i utvärderingssyfte av verksamheten. Det är fantastiskt roligt, men samtidigt väldigt krävande. Efter en dag full av intervjuer är skallen full och psyket trött. Men det väcker massa tankar i mig, och det älskar jag!

En fråga jag ställer handlar om hur man upplever att man påverkar utvecklingen av samhället genom sitt deltagande på skolan, och där får jag svar från 0-100. Det vill säga, vissa säger sig aldrig ha tänkt tanken och ser inte heller att de skulle kunna påverka utvecklingen av samhället, medan andra med emfas trycker på alla de sätt de påverkar samhället, här och nu, i det nära och lilla såväl som i det fjärran och stora.

Tänkte på det imorse när jag hörde att Nelson Mandela dött (må han vila i frid!), denna gigant till människa, som väl mer än någon annan visat att en människa verkligen kan påverka utvecklingen av ett samhälle, och som tur är, gjorde han det på ett sätt som gagnat oss alla. 20131206-102816.jpgBlir ledsen då jag hör människor säga att de inte kan påverka samhället. Lika glad blir jag när jag ser de, vars ögon börjar gnistra när jag ställer frågan, och jag riktigt ser deras kraft! Den är fysiskt påtaglig!

Hur får vi fler att inse att En människa, i stort som smått, kan påverka samhället, och att den personen är just Du?