Mirror mirror on the wall

A few weeks ago I had lunch at a café I’d never visited before. Before leaving I stopped by the restroom and got totally perplex, but couldn’t really figure it out… until I washed my hands. Because what I saw then was NOT myself, which is what I’ve gotten used to seeing. Why? Well, simply because there’s always a mirror above the sink in a bathroom. But not here, here I just saw red checkered wallpaper.

mirrorIt’s an insignificant observation, because I had absolutely no problem washing my hands without having a mirror to stare at. (Otherwise I’d be getting really worried about myself!). But it made me realize something which I believe to be quite significant:

When something is so common to us it is just automatic, we stop noticing it.
Not until it disappears, do we notice the void. 

Which means that I go through a lot of life running in automatic mode. And that might absolutely have its merit, but sometimes I think it can turn quite dangerous to my ability to truly live life.

With each passing day, I experience a much greater awareness to the experience of life. An ever-growing consciousness that makes me see, feel, hear, smell, touch, taste and sense more of life.

That way to experience life is there for us all. All the time. Every day. Constantly available. The only requirement to this ordinary everyday miracle is being conscious to what goes on within and beyond you. Are you?

Podcast 11/52 – what am I blinding my children to?

I’ve already recommended the entire Invisibilia-podcast series in one of these podcast recommendations, and I do suggest you listen to each and every show. But here’s a specific episode which is just mind-blowing. At the end, the hosts had me dancing in the street (was outside taking a walk while listening) as I answered YES to the question:

Do you think if we changed our expectations blind people could come to see?

The episode is called: How to become batman and centers around Daniel Kish, a blind man (since he was 13 months old) who since early age uses echolocation to get around.

BoldomaticPost_What-am-I-blinding-my-childreWhen I listen to how his mom raised him, I got really quiet, and looked deep within at how I raise and have raised my children.

Paulette Kish faced the question if she was going to raise him like a seeing child, allow him to explore his world with very few restrictions on him for blindness?

Now. My children are not physically blind. So that specific question has never been a question for me to ponder. But still, as I listen to this show, and hear the story of Daniel, and of his mother, I cannot help but wonder what I am blinding my children to, by the expectations I place upon them? And correspondingly, what am I opening them up to, by other expectations? Are these expectations intentional or unintentional from my part? How aware am I of my expectations, and the result that can spring from them?